5 Steps to Self-Love


My Top 5 Steps to Self-Love

Self-love is a super popular term that most don’t really know the true meaning. It is technically defined as having high regard to one’s own well-being and happiness. To me, it goes beyond that act of doing something special for yourself, but it is based on a deep appreciation for oneself. Through those loving actions, my life expands in a way that gives me strength in the hard times, acknowledges my insecurities with compassion, and keeps me centred in every dimension of my life.


Over the years, I have retooled and refined the acts that represent my self-love tonic. Below are my top 5 steps to maintaining a joyous, happy and vibrant life rooted in self-love.

1. Personal Rituals: One of the first things I do in the morning is take a few moments to give thanks and set a positive intention for the day. Once my feet hit the ground, I turn on my favourite music, feed and walk the dogs, practice yoga, meditate, and then jump into working. Create your own set of rituals that serve as self-love moments that enhance your brilliance and keep you steady.

2. Live with Intention: I’m not saying you have to have a grand personal intention; however, I do believe creating a simple intention that guides and supports your personal efforts is a perfect technique to living a mindful and intentional life. One of my personal intentions is “Lead With Love.” I think about this before I make major life decisions, discuss challenging topics with others, and engage in my daily life activities. I aim to ensure all of my actions are based in love.

3. Forgive Yourself: As a spiritual being living in physical form, I’m guaranteed to make mistakes and sometimes “wack choices” that don’t support my overall well-being. It happens. With that thought, I encourage you to accept all of who you are, the darkness and the light. Try not to beat yourself up, and simply learn and grow on this little journey of life.

4. Set Limits: Trust me, it is okay to say NO! Set your personal limits and boundaries as it relates to loved ones, friends, work, etc. As you know, not setting limits can drain you of your physical and emotional strength.

5. Practice Self-Care: I can say I love myself all day long, but if I’m not doing a few basic things on a physical, mental and spiritual level, none of the steps away really work. I suggest taking time to exercise (yoga is my thing), eat healthy, pamper yourself, meditate/find stillness, journal, do what makes you happy, and cultivate healthy relationships (with yourself and others).

Again, these are just 5 of my personal tips around self-love. At the end of the day, the real secret is when you begin to fully love yourself, the universe will naturally deliver people, opportunities, and situations to further support your love filled way of life.

What tools do you use to maintain a joyous, happy and vibrant life rooted in self-love? Leave your comments below.